11.2.2013- III


Dia de Muertos, or Day of the Dead, is a holiday of rich tradition and remembrance. For some, it may be a celebration of life for those loved ones who have passed. For others, a somber occasion to grieve. But for me, it’s a day of love, joy and legacy. For me, it’s my wedding anniversary!

When Chino (that’s my husband’s nickname) and I were first discussing possible dates we toyed with the idea of an October wedding. But between coordinating my sister’s school schedule (she was living and teaching in China at the time) and figuring out available dates for venues here in Hermosillo, things just weren’t working out. Then November 2nd was mentioned. November 2nd… Dia de Muertos. Every venue would be available. No one else would be getting married that day. I loved the idea. It was quirky, like me! People thought we were crazy. Getting married on DAY OF THE DEAD? Really? Yes, really. The more I thought about it, the more I loved it. See, what first was a quirky and available date became something much more to us.


On my side of the family, I only have one living grandparent. On my husbands side, all have passed. So what better way to honor our grandparents and channel all of their wisdom, love, patience, insight, and years of marriage than to get married on the day we are supposed to honor and remember their legacy!?  In fact, ALL of our ancestors love and wisdom would be channeled and honored that day. It was perfect.

Photography was actually the first thing I booked. I found Melissa and knew I wanted her to be the one to document our day. After securing that, we found a priest who agreed to officiate the ceremony for us, despite being a highly irregular day to get married. The last big things we needed to book right away were the church and the reception venue. It was really important to us that we got married at the church and venue where we first met. I’ll go into that story at a later date, but we crossed our fingers and they graciously allowed us to get married there despite not usually allowing weddings on this day! Everything was aligning perfectly!

As we were checking things off of our list, I foolishly thought that taking on a few DIY wedding projects wouldn’t be a big deal but boy, was I wrong! I hand lettered 300+ invitation envelopes, designed my own invitations, painted 60 bottles, fashioned my own wedding lasso rosary,  designed a thumb print “guest book” alternative, hand lettered and put together 300 + guest favors and apart from countless other little projects. I was way in over my head, but I was determined to turn my wedding dreams into reality!


Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

Working so closely with all of the vendors was such a fun process. They went along with all of my ideas and seeing them become reality the day of really took my breath away. The altar I designed was especially meaningful since the whole day became about really honoring the wisdom and legacy our grandparents left behind for us. Just seeing my grandma’s face light up and seeing her cry at the sight of my grandfather’s photo was so moving and is something I will never forget. And when I sit down and think about the day we got married and remember everyone who helped us celebrate, I still get choked up. It’s been such a blessing to be able to look back year after year at our wedding photos and relive those touching, funny, weird, sweet, awkward, loving and lasting moments.

So today on our third wedding anniversary, as I reflect on our journey, I can’t help but feel a little overwhelmed with emotion. It certainly has not been easy. There have been many big bumps along the way. So many changes and transitions were a huge adjustment for us both. We’ve had arguments. There have been some really difficult seasons that looked grim. We haven’t always been the perfect partner to each other. But there has also been growth. There has been love. There has been understanding. There has been support. There has been humor and lighthearted fun. We’ve made memories. We’ve dreamt together. We’ve netflixed and chilled like bosses. We’ve had random road trips. We’ve taken long drives just to talk and get out of the house. These three years have been challenging, but through it all, we’ve managed to not force choke each other (star wars reference for anyone who cares hahah) Thats gotta count for something, right? haha

Thank you for doing life with me, Chino. Thank you for making me laugh. For accepting my quirks. For challenging me. For supporting and encouraging me in my leap to pursuing photography. I’m proud of our journey. It’s been messy… it’s been beautiful. It’s been raw and it’s been real. It’s been ours. And with years and years of love and marriage to channel and gain insight from today, I look forward to continued growth with you and honest engagement as we move confidently into this new year of marriage.


On Marriage
 Kahlil Gibran

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.


Event Coordination: Gustavo Guerrero

Florals and Rentals: Eventos Elite Hermosillo with Bodas Elizabeth Burquez

Venue: La Casona del Xochimilco  •  Catering: Taqueria El Chino & Los Genios

Paper Product Printing: Cards and Pockets    •   Cake: Pasteleria Salomé

Dress: Pronovias   •   Jewlery: BHLDN 

Paper Product Printing: Cards and Pockets

Videographer: David Hinojos    •    Photography: Melissa Young 

8 thoughts on “11.2.2013- III

  1. I love you babe! You are such a beautiful person with a big and beautiful heart and soul. Wouldn’t trade what we have for anything else. Thank you for being my partner in this journey, and I look forward for what the future brings our way. Te amo, cosita =)

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